Alone time

Sometimes I think that we need to be alone,

alone to think about things, think things through,

that downtime, that enables us to get in touch with who we really are and think about where we are wanting to go,

what we have done well,

what didn't quite work out for us.

I do believe that beyond that we need people around us,

not just anybody,

but people who get us,

who are ok when we are our authentic selves,

people who will uplift us,

people who will have our back and help us push past our belief system that might be holding us back,

people who are as invested in us as we are in ourselves.

Those people really exist.

Maybe you are lucky enough to have people around you that.

I remember at times I sure didn't have those people around me.

I love that saying " You become the same as the five people who you hang around with most"

but it is scary sometimes when you check in who those five people are.

Sometimes we let ourselves slide and let the negativity in, maybe we don't know how to move that negativity on.

It is when we surround ourselves closely with those who uplift us, that we will expect the best out of ourselves.

And likewise we become the person who uplifts them and holds them to be the best version of themselves.

Holistic health

Sometimes people ask me why I got into holistic health?

Like what was the turning point, coming from such a medical upbringing?

Well it goes back a long way,

all the way back to my first pregnancy.

I had pre-eclampsia, so really high blood pressure,

I had a months bed rest at home, but couldn't stop myself jumping up doing little house work jobs.

I then ended up in hospital on bed rest because of the blood pressure and swelling from the pre-eclampsia.

I went along with what the professionals said, never doubting anything.

I ended up having a premature baby, 2 months premature.

We both ended up staying in hospital for weeks,

my blood pressure wouldn't settle,

I had a sick baby in an incubator, it was the scariest thing ever.

I was told to lie on the bed and rest, as they couldn't control my blood pressure.

One day this beautiful soul, a nurse came in, with a little note in her hand.

She said this might help you if you truly believe.

It was an affirmation from Louise Hays book about how you can Heal your life.

The affirmation for blood pressure, was around releasing the past.

I believed it, but it took me a while to process that I could actually be creating stuff in my own body.

That lead me to a huge search about our mind and body and how our mind can create illness in body.

Through conscious breathing, you can control your blood pressure, through mediation you can as well, hypnotherapy too.

So people say but that stuff is hereditary as well,

and I say, 

Is it, or is it that you are recreating the same hereditary patterns?

Food for thought 

Trauma that keeps us stuck

Trauma can happen to any of us at any time. Trauma is the result of an extremely distressing event happening to us or around us.

The same trauma can happen to different people and there can be very different responses.

Trauma can be one event, or it can be ongoing events.

As trauma is caused by a very distressing event, the memories coded from that event are fully represented through all our senses.  Some senses will remember that trauma more than others.

Trauma has a way of being triggered. you may feel that you have got over a traumatic event that has happened, but a certain sound, smell, something you see, something you feel, can trigger that traumatic event like it was just happening.

When events happen to us in life, there are usually learnings we take away, things we know we will do, or we won't do, sometimes we find a lesson in the learning, sometimes we have just been caught up in a terrible event.

If we learn to manage our traumatic experience, we can then use that to become a strength to help us against any future negative experience.

As with any negative experience, the strategies we learn from coping, the strength we draw from those experiences can be used as a positive force to motivate us forward in our day to day life.

Ever felt like you are going the opposite way?

I took this photo as it signifies to me how sometimes we can be going against the grain in a different direction.

I certainly have done this on many occasions, sometimes it is lonely,

but it is only ever lonely until you met up with the rest of the people getting outside their comfort zone and trying something different.

It becomes actually really something exciting.

I have spent years learning how to consciously go against the grain,

like leave the belief system behind and have courage and try something new,

I have jumped into things many times and people have looked at my sideways,

but at the end of the day, going out of my comfort zone brought new learnings,

ways of doing things better,

better efficiency in my day,

thriving business,

amazing people to be around,

staying true to my values,

having fun,

while being athletically me.

Who is in your closet circle?

Have you ever looked around and noticed the personalities of those in your closet circle of friends.

I bet you have heard that saying that you become like the 5 people who you spend the most time with.

I have looked around at various points of my life, and thought I might need to rethink where I allow my time and energy to go.

I think we have all probably done that.

We have all probably had those friends who can only see the negative.

I am often asked where I get my energy and motivation from.

It is simple, I surround myself with like minded people.

People who see the good, the positive, they encourage you with your dreams, they support you. Those people are priceless.

This year I decided to search even further, and found myself a super upbeat community. 

A bunch of people just like me who inspire me, hold me accountable when I feel like giving up, and generally cheer me along to be my best self.

I love that, I get so much value out of that, because it enables me to do what I love best,

and that is to help others achieve their dreams.

Have a fantastic day .

Day 13, 90 day challenge

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