Wednesday 17 May 2023

What is your desired outcome? Life Success Coach

While coaching someone, one of the first things that I always need to establish is what their desired outcomes is?

Lets face it, what is the point of pushing ourselves to achieve a goal if we dont know what our desired outcome will be. To establish and outcome, we can ask ourselves a series of questions to get down to the bottom of what and why you are trying to achieve somethng.

We start with stating in a positive sentence what it is we want. Once you have done that you need to establish if you can achieve this outcome by yourself or do you need support people to help you. If you need support people, who will they be, ask them to help out and clearly establish what sort of help you need. Then close your eyes and imagine you have already achieved your goal, run through your senses, what it would look like, what it would feel like, what would you hear.

When we imagine a situation we ewillbe using our senses to amke a scene complete, so it is reallly important to do this part of the process. Whether we imagine something or whether we recalla past situation it will be coded with our five senses, some sense will be stronger than others.

Imagination is a great tool; imagination allows us to dummy run a situation without in effect doing anything in real life about it. A good example is an interview, you might be nervous, if in your mind you imagine you are already there in the interview and go through some of the questions you think you might get asked, your brain registers that process. If you imagine over and over about the interview, by the time you get to the interview you feel much more relaxed because your brain has already put you in the position many times.

In the same way, if we create a goal and we imagine what it would be like if we already achieved it, it gives us a really good indication of what it will be like for you when you have achieved it. If that feeling is a really great feeling, while you are feeling excited about achieving it, imagine you have a camera and take a snapshot of what you see, and then file it somewhere safe in your mind.

While you are busy achieving a goal you might have highs and lows, shall I carry on or shall I quit, and when you feel like quitting you can always pull that snapshot in your mind, and it gives you a great boost to carry on.

Another question to ask yourself is, when will you know you have achieved this goal, and be specific about the answer. You clearly want to know when you go over the finish line. The next question is, what is the purpose of the goal? What will it give you? Is there a greater benefit of your goal? Is there an agenda for you in the goal? Good clean goals give good clean results.

A question you need to ask yourself is, is this in line with my morals and values? Goals that are not in line with your morals and values are bittersweet when you achieve them, so become a big waste of time.

So, think of what you want to achieve, carefully pick some support people if needed, imagine the goal already completed. Take a snapshot when you feel the most motivated about the goal. Make sure it is a clean goal that is in line with your values and morals. Strive forward and when sprits are flagging check out your snapshot again. When you have achieved it, remember to give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done.

Whether you are an avid goal setter or never done one before, you can start at any point, the goal can be as big or small as you want, at the end of the day you are trying to please and amaze yourself not others!

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