Tuesday 6 June 2023

Perception is key - Life Success Coach

Life can be a bit of a roller coaster at times, and learning to take the good with the bad can be quite a skill. Some people can take knock after knock and still come up smiling, while others take every knock really hard.  A good thing to look at is our perspective of life. If we perceive life to be hard and a struggle, if often can be. There are many people out there who struggle all the time but will readily have a smile on their face and offer a helping hand even though they are struggling.

Perception is key. How do you perceive life? If we believe that we are hard done by, then every event that comes along will play to that perception. If we believe that life is good, then often it will seem much better. We often hear people talking about the power of positive thinking, but does it really work? Things will happen in life to all of us, good and bad. It is how we handle these situations that matters. If we get into the mindset of "here we go again", then you have already framed up tin your head, that it's another problem to put onto the mountain of problems you already have. If you can hold a belief that you can manage anything coming along, then you will feel much better. 

The reality is life deals blows to all of us. If we have unresolved things going on, and if they are taking up you head space, it's a really good idea to try and sort something out so you have peace of mind. Otherwise, any other issues incoming will mount on top. It's like not doing the washing, day after day, you pile clothes up to be washed, if you don't start sorting the washing out, you will end up with no clothes to wear. Same thing, if you don't sort through issues bothering you, then issues will mount up on top of you until you feel you have no resources to cope. 

A great idea is to sit down and list the things that are bothering you, and take action, what do you need to do to resolve these things? Sometimes we can't resolve things, so learning acceptance is another great skill. If something is bothering you and someone else around you have been through similar, ask them for some tips on getting over the issue. There are many resources in the community that would help you out too. Reading self-help books is a great idea, as just one of the suggestions in the book might resonate with you, you might learn something else. 

Years ago, I was a volunteer at Wilson Home for Crippled Children. I was a teenager myself at the time. My friend who I visited for years became il quickly and then died, then a week later, his roommate died and then a couple of weeks later their other friend died. These kids taught me to not take life too seriously. These kids could laugh and make light of the world even though they were living on borrowed time and in wheelchairs. My perception of life changed all those years ago, and I have never forgotten that experience. Sometimes we get caught up in the little stuff and we allow it to fill our heads and it can leave us feeling negative.

To have gratitude for all you have now, and an acceptance of those things you simply cannot change, can go a long way to dropping stress levels.

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